24 Responses to “Interview with Former Lesbian Melanie Spinks”

1. Joshua Harris
   September 26th, 2008 @ 3:55 pm

   I really appreciated this show. We need to have a solid stand on what scripture obviously teaches on this subject, but WITH love and compassion. I read the Ray Boltz article on his coming out and the thing that struck me is that he said he had struggled with it, fighting it, for years and he did not anticipate acceptance and compassion if Christians did find out- he did not think that he had anyone he could go to to help him. I think he fell into believing a lie that there would be no acceptance; but we could totally eliminate the lie by being redemptive, standing for truth without an air of being condemning, being merciful and compassionate.

   I just think we have really missed it here, and the issue of our culture’s moral decline confronts us, confronts me, with a need for a deeper working of the cross in realizing that i/ we have not been living Christ as I ought.

   Mike and Melanie- thanks for the show.

2. Dr. Michael L. Brown
   September 27th, 2008 @ 11:46 am

   Joshua,

   You’re quite welcome, and you’re absolutely right.

3. Nelson Banuchi
   September 27th, 2008 @ 6:56 pm

   This is really good. I’m glad to see former homosexuals who are now Christians speaking out against through their own life experiences. In New York City, you can see children, girls more tha boys it seems, about 12 or 14 years old are walking the streets holding hands and kissing each other; girls with girls. I wish there was some way that we could pass things like this to the children of New York City.

   In any case, the interview was well done and not something that I think a homosexual wouold be offenced by if they heard it.

   One question, out of curiousity: Have there been any homosexuals that have shared thay either the interview has affected them to the point where they are either rethinking their views or have become renounced homosexuality and submitted to Christ?

4. Glenn
   September 27th, 2008 @ 8:34 pm

   Wow – I just listened to this program. Really awesome! Praise God that Melanie continued to fix her eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfector of her faith. Now she’s getting married to the man she loves… ha! – GOD IS SO AWESOME!

5. Dr Michael Brown
   September 28th, 2008 @ 12:51 am

   Nelson,

   Nice to hear from you! Since the show was just aired, we haven’t received any feedback from anyone in the homosexual community, but I trust that God will use this broadcast to make a difference in some of their lives.

   As for not offending anyone, actually, no matter how gracious our tone, the very idea that there is such a thing as a former homosexual is terribly offensive to gays and lesbians. All the more reason to pray for them!

   Glenn,

   Just to clarify: Melanie bought a wedding dress in faith, anticipating the day she will be married and as a testimony to her transformation. She has not yet met her “Mr. Right.”

6. Dez
   September 28th, 2008 @ 1:02 am

   Dr. Brown says: As for not offending anyone, actually, no matter how gracious our tone, the very idea that there is such a thing as a former homosexual is terribly offensive to gays and lesbians.

   I ask: Forgive my ignorance on this subject… does this offense come due to the perception that homosexuals are born that way? (That is to say, genetically predisposed to this sexuality) or is there another reason? Do those in the gay community feel that those who renounce homosexuality are betraying themselves or the community, and/or in denial of their genetically imposed condition?

7. Glenn
   September 28th, 2008 @ 2:09 am

   Oh… Darn. Ingorance was bliss there for a short while… Thanks for the clarification. Well, praise God for her testimony though! What an amazing work God does. And it is amazing how it was as if the Lord was always there with her through the whole thing saying, “Melanie… you know this isn’t it – I’m here, waiting for you to repent and surrender.”

   His patience always blows my mind!

8. Ryan Dube
   September 28th, 2008 @ 9:52 am

   Dez asked: Forgive my ignorance on this subject… does this offense come due to the perception that homosexuals are born that way? (That is to say, genetically predisposed to this sexuality) or is there another reason? Do those in the gay community feel that those who renounce homosexuality are betraying themselves or the community, and/or in denial of their genetically imposed condition?

   There are those that claim it is genetic, but there are also those that claim that murderer’s possess a gene which attributes to their behavior. I think the offence is grounded in intelligence. They take it as an insult that believers do not agree with their way of life and that it is seen to be wrong, which would naturally make their “beliefs” wrong about the homosexual culture.

   Once they find out that it all has to do with choice, then they will see reality, and hopefully come to a knowledge of Yeshua.

9. Dez
   September 28th, 2008 @ 11:14 am

   So let me get this right… the offense comes because Christians believe sexuality to be a matter of choice, not genetics. Therefore, if it is choice, they are accountable for the choice (which genetics had otherwise absolved them). A former homosexual is a living argument that the lifestyle is wrong… a slap in the face. I guess that would be quite an awakening… forcing a reevaluation of a lot more than just sexuality. OK, I think I understand Dr. Brown’s comment now, as no matter how loving or gentle the messenger, the message causes a profound confrontation. Wow, witnessing to this community must be pretty tough… would need someone with thick skin, a big heart, and lots o’ patience.

10. cris east
    September 28th, 2008 @ 7:41 pm

    i really appreciated this show. we need to have a soleil stand on what the bible teacher.

11. Melanie Spinks
    September 30th, 2008 @ 12:26 pm

    Thanks for all of your feedback on the show.
    Yeah, my story has been met with animosity, but usually because people expect a charicature of what the Christian response looks like. I do pray for thick skin and have found it to be God’s love for those who oppose (I don’t always have though – it is supernatural). I once found myself surrounded by an angry group (in my art show about following Jesus, not related to this issue specifically). And in that moment, I was filled and surrounded with peace, felt such love for them, and heard the Lord say, “It is not you they are rejecting; It’s Me.” Too, God has called many militant activists to follow Him just as He once did Saul of Tarsus. He does as He pleases and no one is beyond His reach.
    I tell those who struggle that I’m not their enemy. As Niles once said, “I’m just one beggar telling another where to find bread.” Once we press in past the talking points, we do share a common ground as two people who struggle with ourselves and have an eternal longing in our hearts that can only be filled by Christ no matter what our issues may be. But I am encouraged by the openess of the younger generations. I just had a conversation with some college students and though they were making different choices, they nevertheless had the clarity to recognize that people should be able to choose how they handle this issue.

12. Michael
    October 1st, 2008 @ 3:57 pm

    The guy that briefly called in at the end with regards to genetalia reminded me of a point an aetheist I know named Glen once tried to make. Glen tried to point out that why would a loving God allow a person to be born hermaphrodite. Then he tried to make the point that it wouldn’t be fair if this person was criticized for being gay or bisexual. From what I’ve heard, when a person is born with the genetal of a male and female, the male piece is usually extremely small and dysfunctional, and the decision is made by the doctor or parent at birth to remove it. I don’t know too much about this though. I was wondering if the guy calling in was eventually going to try and make this point. Any expert thoughts on this particular scenario?

13. Glenn
    October 2nd, 2008 @ 1:55 am

    Melanie,

    Stand strong sister!

    Praying for you,

    Glenn

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15. Dr Michael Brown
    March 7th, 2009 @ 6:32 pm

    Karen (“More Stories”),

    Thanks for the great links on your website. I just referred someone to the Sy Rogers material.

16. Mwiya
    March 7th, 2009 @ 8:22 pm

    Dr Brown,
    I saw a sermon by Sy Roberts recently was pretty cool, he gave his testimony and all. Was amazing! Praise Yah!

17. Trinidad. Adventist. Gay?!
    March 21st, 2009 @ 7:16 am

    Michael says:
    October 1, 2008 at 3:57 pm
    The guy that briefly called in at the end with regards to genetalia reminded me of a point an aetheist I know named Glen once tried to make. Glen tried to point out that why would a loving God allow a person to be born hermaphrodite. Then he tried to make the point that it wouldn’t be fair if this person was criticized for being gay or bisexual. From what I’ve heard, when a person is born with the genetal of a male and female, the male piece is usually extremely small and dysfunctional, and the decision is made by the doctor or parent at birth to remove it. I don’t know too much about this though. I was wondering if the guy calling in was eventually going to try and make this point. Any expert thoughts on this particular scenario?
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    No, because at the very end he asks the host and guest to pray for his daughter who he implies is also a lesbian.

    What he was likely going to point out was that many of the children who this is done to grow up to be the opposite sex to how the parents raised them–thus implying that male and female are created that way and cannot be altered based on our ‘feelings” etc.

18. Michael
    March 21st, 2009 @ 12:44 pm

    Maybe he was going to make this point, but even so, if one reproductive part is functional while the other is not, and the doctor does away with the dysfunctional part, it would seem he made the right choice. I’ve never heard of both being functional. You’ll know if he made the wrong choice if the “male” grows female breasts in the future, but I’ve never heard of this happening. Again, I am no expert on this. Maybe the best course of action by the parents is to raise the child as neutrally as possible until maturation reveals more. I’m speaking as one who has no personal knowledge or experience of this.

19. Alvin
    March 24th, 2009 @ 8:13 pm

    I thought I was straight too, until I was totally unable to relate sexually to my wife. Melanie’s claims will be more credible if she is happily married to a man.

20. Michael
    March 25th, 2009 @ 9:03 am

    I’m sorry you struggle with such a thing Alvin. Do realize though that people struggle with different things, and if it’s contrary to God’s Word, we have to fight those struggles no matter how right it feels. It’s all about pleasing God and not ourselves. Melanie does the right thing by fighting her former struggles in order to please God. She is being faithful in her sacred covenant with the Lord.

21. Ewan
    September 23rd, 2009 @ 7:26 am

    Can anyone help me out here? I’m pretty sure that a later LoF show featured another former lesbian but I can’t remember who it was or when it was.

22. Dr Michael L Brown
    September 23rd, 2009 @ 10:07 am

    Janet Boynes.

    http://www.janetboynesministries.com/

23. Ewan
    September 24th, 2009 @ 5:56 am

    Thanks Dr. Brown. Much appreciated. I found the show it was from Jan 9, 2009. For anyone else interested, here is the link.

24. LULZ
    April 9th, 2010 @ 1:58 am

    Maybe he was going to make this point, but even so, if one reproductive part is functional while the other is not, and the doctor does away with the dysfunctional part, it would seem he made the right choice. I’ve never heard of both being functional. You’ll know if he made the wrong choice if the “male” grows female breasts in the future, but I’ve never heard of this happening. Again, I am no expert on this. Maybe the best course of action by the parents is to raise the child as neutrally as possible until maturation reveals more. I’m speaking as one who has no personal knowledge or experience of this.
    ==================================
    … But I think it is well to ask questions so it can be logically discussed. But the lack of basic human formation/hormone functions, etc we have is pretty elementary.

    First of all, wait until the child grows and see if he develops “breasts” that is futile! OF COURSE a male without testicles is going to produce breasts, it does not mean he is a female.

    Infant genital mutilation is crazy and should be shunned! Ambiguous genitalia should remain in tact until the child is able to express whether they are male or female. While sometimes I believe that gender confusion is due to a real confusion and lack of stability, often times it is hard-wired in the brain. If you have a child who is ambiguous at birth, you must sit back and wonder what has also went wrong with their physical brain make up. Must keep in mind that the brain signals to the body to produce hormones, so if a childs body has ambiguous sex characteristics.. Think about what that could say about the childs brain. Best to wait until they tell you if they are male or female.

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